i recommended and implemented a checklist at work. others raised their eyebrows and wouldn't touch it. if it works for surgeons, it works for us!

"have a checklist. You can't fix that problem without addressing shame, because when they teach those folks how to suture, they also teach them how to stitch their self-worth to being all-powerful. And all-powerful folks don't need checklists."

we're most often our biggest critic. definitely the case with me.

"Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is "I am bad." Guilt is "I did something bad." Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake. "

"Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders. Guilt, inversely correlated with those things."

the difference is letting go.

"For men, shame is not a bunch of competing, conflicting expectations. Shame is one, do not be perceived as what? Weak"

i.e. vulnerability. men are not allowed to show weakness. we have to live up to the same 19th century ideals of stoic men, that haven't changed since.

"men in this country need to do to conform with male norms, the answers were: always show emotional control, work is first, pursue status and violence. "

shame thrives under secrecy, silence, and judgement. empathy is the opposite.

" I'm going to go in there and kick some ass when I'm bulletproof and when I'm perfect"

sounds like my entire life.

I feel like vulnerability is just a fear of your own failure.

It's an uncomfortable emotion, in a world that systematically avoids uncomfortable emotions (brave new world, anyone? soma all around us).

"You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then, we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle."

humans are hard-wired to avoid uncertainty. uncertainty means you might be eaten by a lion on the plains. it's a very uncomfortable emotion.

"we make everything that's uncertain certain."

we perfect. instead of saying "You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." so we're a generation grown up thinking we're only worthy if we're perfect. so we're endlessly chasing our own perfection as we spiral into depression and madness.

we try to abstract away everything we don't like. and we end up with nothing. man is a machine designed to resolve conflict. without conflict. there is no human story.

"be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, "I'm just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive"

this part sounds super hard

"believe that we're enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, "I'm enough" ... then we stop screaming and start listening, we're kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves. "

summary of NPR talk on Google X guy and how his teams accept failure as a counter-balance to their wild moon-shot optimism

"enthusiastic scepticism is not the enemy of boundless optimism. it's optimism's perfect partner. it unlocks the potential in every idea."

Democrats went for a soundbite that still somehow over-estimated the intelligence of the American public, while still missing the entire meal

"Trump commingled the personal and the national not just on trade questions but across the whole field of national security. I am hard-pressed to identify any significant Trump decision during my White House tenure that wasn’t driven by re-election calculations.

These and innumerable other similar conversations with Trump formed a pattern of fundamentally unacceptable behavior that eroded the very legitimacy of the presidency. Had Democratic impeachment advocates not been so obsessed with their Ukraine blitzkrieg in 2019, had they taken the time to inquire more systematically about Trump’s behavior across his entire foreign policy, the impeachment outcome might well have been different."

it's almost like having a racist tyrant-wannabe in power matters

"According to our interpreter, Trump said that Xi should go ahead with building the camps, which Trump thought was exactly the right thing to do. The National Security Council’s top Asia staffer, Matthew Pottinger, told me that Trump said something very similar during his November 2017 trip to China."

also someone with a "reflex to try to talk his way out of anything, even a public-health crisis"

"The NSC biosecurity team functioned exactly as it was supposed to. It was the chair behind the Resolute desk that was empty."

policy of the world's superpower is based in narcissism and weakness

"Most important of all, will Trump’s current China pose last beyond election day? The Trump presidency is not grounded in philosophy, grand strategy or policy. It is grounded in Trump. That is something to think about for those, especially China realists, who believe they know what he will do in a second term."

"I am not sad that Black Americans are rebelling; this was not only inevitable but eminently desirable. Without this magnificent ferment among Negroes, the old evasions and procrastinations would have continued indefinitely... radical reconstruction of society itself is the real issue to be faced... Today's dissenters tell the complacent majority that the time has come when further evasion of social responsibility in a turbulent world will court disaster and death. America has not changed because so many don't think it need change." - Martin Luther King Jr., "A Testament of Hope," 1969

has the silent majority only grown and become more complacent since?

Regardless of which version of events is followed, it seems fair to say that some level of intoxication was involved in the development of the maze algorithm.

"The basic maze generating routine had been partially written by a stoner who had left. I contacted him to try and understand what the maze generating algorithm did. He told me it came upon him when he was drunk and whacked out of his brain, he coded it up in assembly overnight before he passed out, but now could not for the life of him remember how the algorithm worked."

Sidley also observed that the maze code was uncommented, and when asked about the 32-byte table said ‘It was a mystery to me too, I couldn’t unscramble it. I just used it to generate the new row at the bottom of the screen.’

It was only when these attempts at drawing attention to systemic problems failed that demonstrators rose up in violence, including in modern-day Baltimore and Charlotte.

"I was one of the ones who started the peaceful protests … the first seven days [after Gray's death], when it was fine and dandy," William Stewart, a West Baltimore resident who didn't participate in the riots, told Jenée Desmond-Harris for Vox. "I walked about 101 miles in peace. But if you protest peacefully, they don't give a shit."

"This is one of the greatest ironies. People would say that this kind of level of upheaval in the streets and this kind of chaos in the streets is counterproductive," Thompson said. "The fact of the matter is that it was after every major city in the urban north exploded in the 1960s that we get the first massive probe into what was going on — known as the Kerner Commission."

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